Friday, October 30, 2009
Registery
We've just completed our registery at Target! It is under Mandy or Sean Deffendall. The name of the register is Gabriel Michael Deffendall's baby registery. Love you guys!
Big News
We have some big news. Sean and I have been doing a lot of talking, and we decided that I am going to be a stay-at-home Mom, probably until Gabe goes off to school. We weighed all of our options, and this seems to be the best. We really don't want to have to put Gabriel in daycare, and daycare is also very expensive. It would be impossible for me to continue working, going to school, and paying for daycare or a nanny. We want Gabe to get the best attention possible, and of course, what would be better than being home with mom? We talked about me taking classes online, but the fact is we can't afford tuition, and I can't work if I am home with Gabe, and my work does not cover more than my tuition. It would be different if we had family to look after Gabriel, but we don't have that luxury down here.
I am thrilled that I get to spend all of this time with Gabriel. What more rewarding job is there than taking care of your own child? Sean is very excited to have me home. Being in school and working means driving 2 hours nearly everyday, leaving the house around 7 and sometimes not getting home until 10:00 at night, only to leave at 7:00 AM again. It is just too much. We never see each other, and when I am home, I'm busy cleaning the house, doing my homework, or taking care of the dogs. We want more family time. We miss each other like crazy. My life is consumed by homework and work, and the stress is really wearing me down. I went through my undergraduate degree so quickly. I went through 153 credits in 4 years with a 4.0 while working. It was rough, and I'm a bit burned out with the whole school thing. I have applied to job after job here, but I have never even gotten a call-back. I guess 4.0 and work experience isn't enough these days. I think Sean is excited to have me home. It finally means that I will be home to cook him dinner, make him breakfast, and spend more time with him. He works really hard, and it means when he comes home, he has no responsibilites, as I will be taking over all house and yard work. He can just come home and relax too.
Money will be tight, of course, but we had many long talks about what is most important. Worldly things don't compare to time with family. So we can't go out to dinner as much or go to as many DMB concerts, but we'll have hours of extra time everyday as a family, and that is what is most important to us. Of course, if money gets too tight, I do have a college degree, and I am sure, God willing, I will be able to find a job.
Once Gabe is off to school, and assuming we don't have another little one at home yet, I will try to find job doing some sort of teaching/editing/writing. Who knows. We have learned over the past 2 1/2 years to just trust God. He'll lead us where we need to be if we trust him.
Until then, I am going to try my hand at writing. I am just about to finish a 50,000 word collection of short stories. Once school is out, I am going to begin a young adult novel. I will work on it day in and day out until Gabriel gets here. 4 months might seem like a long time, but not to try and write a novel. Writing has always been my lifelong dream, so it is a perfect time to really give it a shot. Who knows, maybe I will make it as an author. I'll also be busy preparing our home for Gabe.
Please don't look at this as me wasting my education. I am so thankful for my education, and I do plan on going back to work, possibly school, as soon as Gabriel is off at school. I could not get a job without my degree. I would also not be able to pursue my dream as a writer without learning everything I did at school, and for those of you have known me for awhile, you know that ever since I won Young Authors in 1st grade, I have wanted to be a writer. It's tough to get published and to make money doing it, but I want to try.
We're very excited about our decision. We feel that this will be best for my health and Gabriel's. We've been concerned of the affects stress is having on him because I can't seem to be okay with a 99% in school. I have to have 100%, and, as many of you know, that is stressful, and Grad school is a million times more stressful then undergrad. I need a break. Sean and I are very happy, and we hope you will be supportive. This is what is best for our entire family. Sean wants this as much, if not more than I do. He said, "There's no price tag on Gabriel." I think we can all agree that this is what's best for him.
I am thrilled that I get to spend all of this time with Gabriel. What more rewarding job is there than taking care of your own child? Sean is very excited to have me home. Being in school and working means driving 2 hours nearly everyday, leaving the house around 7 and sometimes not getting home until 10:00 at night, only to leave at 7:00 AM again. It is just too much. We never see each other, and when I am home, I'm busy cleaning the house, doing my homework, or taking care of the dogs. We want more family time. We miss each other like crazy. My life is consumed by homework and work, and the stress is really wearing me down. I went through my undergraduate degree so quickly. I went through 153 credits in 4 years with a 4.0 while working. It was rough, and I'm a bit burned out with the whole school thing. I have applied to job after job here, but I have never even gotten a call-back. I guess 4.0 and work experience isn't enough these days. I think Sean is excited to have me home. It finally means that I will be home to cook him dinner, make him breakfast, and spend more time with him. He works really hard, and it means when he comes home, he has no responsibilites, as I will be taking over all house and yard work. He can just come home and relax too.
Money will be tight, of course, but we had many long talks about what is most important. Worldly things don't compare to time with family. So we can't go out to dinner as much or go to as many DMB concerts, but we'll have hours of extra time everyday as a family, and that is what is most important to us. Of course, if money gets too tight, I do have a college degree, and I am sure, God willing, I will be able to find a job.
Once Gabe is off to school, and assuming we don't have another little one at home yet, I will try to find job doing some sort of teaching/editing/writing. Who knows. We have learned over the past 2 1/2 years to just trust God. He'll lead us where we need to be if we trust him.
Until then, I am going to try my hand at writing. I am just about to finish a 50,000 word collection of short stories. Once school is out, I am going to begin a young adult novel. I will work on it day in and day out until Gabriel gets here. 4 months might seem like a long time, but not to try and write a novel. Writing has always been my lifelong dream, so it is a perfect time to really give it a shot. Who knows, maybe I will make it as an author. I'll also be busy preparing our home for Gabe.
Please don't look at this as me wasting my education. I am so thankful for my education, and I do plan on going back to work, possibly school, as soon as Gabriel is off at school. I could not get a job without my degree. I would also not be able to pursue my dream as a writer without learning everything I did at school, and for those of you have known me for awhile, you know that ever since I won Young Authors in 1st grade, I have wanted to be a writer. It's tough to get published and to make money doing it, but I want to try.
We're very excited about our decision. We feel that this will be best for my health and Gabriel's. We've been concerned of the affects stress is having on him because I can't seem to be okay with a 99% in school. I have to have 100%, and, as many of you know, that is stressful, and Grad school is a million times more stressful then undergrad. I need a break. Sean and I are very happy, and we hope you will be supportive. This is what is best for our entire family. Sean wants this as much, if not more than I do. He said, "There's no price tag on Gabriel." I think we can all agree that this is what's best for him.
Thursday, October 29, 2009
Good News. Link to pics!
I found a way to link my facebook pics to here without you having to get facebook. Click on this link and it should work. I'll also link you to some other photos of our adventures.
Pregnancy Pic Links:
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2020238&id=199600486&l=882946ad5c
Pics with Mom and Dad
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2019795&id=199600486&l=277da87a3e
This is from my anniversary and our birthday
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2018433&id=199600486&l=29d4e8bae8
This is from the Dallas Aquarium and Great Wolf Lodge
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2018419&id=199600486&l=ec2ea1fc16
Trip to Oklahoma
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2017464&id=199600486&l=4bb79a3253
Pregnancy Pic Links:
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2020238&id=199600486&l=882946ad5c
Pics with Mom and Dad
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2019795&id=199600486&l=277da87a3e
This is from my anniversary and our birthday
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2018433&id=199600486&l=29d4e8bae8
This is from the Dallas Aquarium and Great Wolf Lodge
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2018419&id=199600486&l=ec2ea1fc16
Trip to Oklahoma
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2017464&id=199600486&l=4bb79a3253
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Gabriel Michael
Woops. I originally posted this post to THE WRONG BLOG. I posted it for my English 675 blog...woops! I think I thoroughly confused everyone.
Well, I am starting my 15th week, and went in today and found out we're having a boy!!! Gabe has gotten so big! He's really growing, and he looks even more like a cuddly baby. I fell instantly in love with my son. It's so weird but awesome to say that! Sean is so excited. He's beaming. I don't think he could be a prouder papa. It's funny because one of my friends from church just had her baby, and it is a girl, my other friend from church is pregnant with a girl, my friend from school is pregnant with a girl, and two of my other good friends have little girls-- My guess, Gabe is going to be a little heartthrob. Of course he will if he looks like his daddy, right? We go back in in a month and the doctor will be able to check out his brain, heart, things like that, so keep up in your prayers. Love you all!
Well, I am starting my 15th week, and went in today and found out we're having a boy!!! Gabe has gotten so big! He's really growing, and he looks even more like a cuddly baby. I fell instantly in love with my son. It's so weird but awesome to say that! Sean is so excited. He's beaming. I don't think he could be a prouder papa. It's funny because one of my friends from church just had her baby, and it is a girl, my other friend from church is pregnant with a girl, my friend from school is pregnant with a girl, and two of my other good friends have little girls-- My guess, Gabe is going to be a little heartthrob. Of course he will if he looks like his daddy, right? We go back in in a month and the doctor will be able to check out his brain, heart, things like that, so keep up in your prayers. Love you all!
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